Through its ‘Time for me/ Amser i Mi’ Short Breaks Scheme project, Ray of Light Cancer Support offers a lifeline to hundreds of unpaid carers and their families.
Ray of Light provides a confidential, safe and non-judgemental space to support people affected by cancer from communities across South East Wales. Project leaders Rebecca O’Mahoney and Katie Mottram tell us that the Short Breaks Scheme funds some much needed respite for the carers who are struggling with having some ‘me time’.
Given the challenges of caring for someone with cancer, Ray of Light decided to provide carers with hotel gift vouchers which gave them the freedom and flexibility to book when and where was most suitable to meet their needs. Providing cinema and bowling vouchers was popular with families, especially during a time of financial strain, where families could enjoy some “time for me” together.
Ray of Light say, “To have a funded overnight stay can often stop a potential breakdown and also take away the guilt of using funds for vital things like transport to hospital appointments. So far through this scheme, we have directly helped over 387 carers. When you consider the number of the people they care for and how this goes on to benefit them, then we have actually helped over 600 people”.
The Short Breaks Scheme project has allowed Ray of Light to provide some relief and support to many families, giving them a chance to bond and create lasting memories.
“Giving the gift of memories and time spent together, we were able to deliver day trips that many would not normally be able to access. We also provided overnight activity weekends for carers and their families. Dealing with cancer can be emotionally taxing for both the patient and their family members."
Our fully catered activity breaks provided much needed respite, allowing carers and those they care for, time to relax and recharge. They help to build resilience, strengthen bonds and make happy memories.
Caring for a loved one with cancer is a challenging and emotionally taxing journey. Ruma*, a devoted 41-year-old daughter took on the role of primary carer for her mother who was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer a year ago. Ruma has made it her mission to ensure her mother's comfort and quality of life, but it is both physically and emotionally demanding.
Together they took part in a short break activity and attended an outing to Noah's Ark, a wildlife sanctuary. It was a memorable experience for both of them, and gave them some much-needed respite together.
As they entered Noah's Ark, the sight of exotic animals and the sound of chirping birds greeted them. They spent the day taking in the sights and sounds, sharing laughter, and taking photos. Ruma noticed a significant change in her mother as the day progressed. The experience was not only enjoyable but also therapeutic, her mother’s fatigue seemed to fade, replaced by a newfound energy and enthusiasm.
The day at Noah's Ark had a profound impact on both daughter and mother. The opportunity to bond over something they both loved allowed Ruma to momentarily step out of the caring role and simply enjoy being a daughter. Her mother, on the other hand, felt a renewed sense of hope and vitality, a respite from the constant battle against her illness. The outing served as a reminder that life still held moments of joy and beauty, even in the face of adversity.
Sometimes, a simple day out can make all the difference in a carer's journey.
Owain*, a 38-year-old devoted father recently went through a challenging period. He has been the primary carer for his daughters for several years. One daughter has autism, and the other ADHD, which has made daily life quite challenging for the family. Owain’s own father had been battling cancer for the past two years and recently passed away, adding emotional and physical exhaustion to his already heavy load.
However, a glimmer of hope emerged when the family was able to take part in a weekend activity break, organised by Ray of Light, thanks to the Short Breaks Scheme. This much-needed respite and adventure getaway transformed their lives and allowed them to find joy and connection once more.
The family took part in a weekend adventure getaway where they joined other families who were in a similar situation, creating a supportive and inclusive environment.
The weekend started with zip lining, an activity that his two daughters were a little cautious of. However, with the encouragement of the staff and newfound friends, they both conquered their fears and soared through the treetops, sharing exhilarating moments of achievement with their father. The following day, they engaged in raft building, working as a team to construct a seaworthy vessel - a metaphor for their family's resilience and ability to overcome challenges together. When their raft floated successfully, they felt a sense of accomplishment and unity that had been missing from their daily lives.
The evening was spent around a campfire, toasting marshmallows and sharing stories with other families. They connected with families who understood their unique struggles, creating a support network that extended beyond the weekend retreat.
The weekend adventure had a profound impact on the whole family. The daughters became more confident and open to trying new experiences. Owain experienced a renewed sense of hope and resilience. The break allowed him to briefly escape the weight of his responsibilities and the grief of losing his father. The support and camaraderie he found with other parents in similar situations were invaluable. The family said they found a ray of light, reminding them that there is hope and joy to be found even in the darkest times.
These outings demonstrate the power of respite and the importance of balance in the caring life. While caring for a loved one with cancer is a challenging and ongoing responsibility, moments like these can provide much-needed relief and rejuvenation.
*Names are changed to protect privacy